GOLF: It is a Reflection of Who You Are!
My name is Dan Marsh and I am a Golf Fitness Specialist.
I am also a retired Canadian Armed Forces Veteran. I am new to blogging but my aim here is to shoot straight, tell you how it is (in my view), not beat around the bush and spare no feelings. I don't consider myself a rude person or an insensitive person but I also don't make excuses or spare feelings at the cost of truth. The military taught me the reality of the world and I believe its important to accept the reality of the world as a tough love place that requires a bit of a thick skin. what I think it means to be a man in this world is to stand up for those who can't stand up for themselves, shake a persons hand firmly, hold the door open for everyone (not just the ladies) and respect the people next to you as you don't know the mile they had to walk. That is me and my philosophy in a nut shell, so welcome, I hope you enjoy the blogs and I look forward to your feedback.
Today I wanted to talk about the game of Golf and some of the insights I have made on a personal level. These thoughts are part of why I love the game so much and why I chose golf fitness as a career and avenue for helping others.
Golf is more than just a game. It is a reflection of who you are!
Golf is not a game where you have 10-20 team mates who can help you out when you are off or have multiple opponents that want nothing more then to see you fail. Golf at its root is a game you play against only one person - yourself.
Think about it, when you last got really upset or irate over a golf shot that you just KNOW you should've had. Did you think about what you wanted to do immediately before you made that shot? You lined up for that shot. You talked to yourself - walking through how you were going to swing the club as hard as you could to maybe out do your buddy, or drive the green over the achingly long water hazard. Maybe you ran through a lesson you had with an instructor or were simply talking positively to yourself to psych yourself up for the shot.
Think about it, think about when you last got really upset or irate over a golf shot that you just KNOW you should've had. Did you think about what you wanted to do immediately before you made that shot? You lined up for that shot. You talked to yourself - walking through how you were going to swing the club as hard as you could to maybe out do your buddy, or drive the green over the achingly long water hazard. Maybe you ran through a lesson you had with an instructor or were simply talking positively to yourself to psych yourself up for the shot.
You swing.... hard... and the ball goes careening off to the right, bounces off a big tree, takes a hard left right across the fairway and lands 30 yards into the woods on the other side. Frustrating right? what is your response? How did you respond to the adversity?
This was me. I hate to lose. I have 2 brothers and a sister. I was always in competition with them to be better. I would get down on myself and tell myself I should have had that. Then, it dawned on me.... why should I be better then that? did I earn it? did I study the game or have a coach or do my research? Did I spend hours at the driving range honing my craft? No. I didn't. So what was with the expectations?
I soon realized that the expectations I placed on myself in Golf is very reflective of the expectations I put on myself in life. Golf, it appears, is a microcosm of who I am.
In life, when things are going great, I jump for joy and start dreaming of where my journey is taking me and my confidence skyrockets. when things are going badly I think I am the worst person in the world - worthy of nothing. I should just quit. Apply that to golf. Doesn't that sound familiar? When you have three great holes in a row... sink a couple of pars and a birdie - you feel indestructible; like you can compete with the best pros in the world... then you take a double bogey and the cascade begins... one bad hole leads to two... leads to three... you get upset because you bought in to your own success to soon.
Truth is, like life, we have to remain humble. Not get too high when things are going well and not get too low when things aren't going right. Maybe that applies to your love life, or your business or family. As a warrior, the world has thrown some of the harshest of realities at me - realities that I had to overcome. Some I had to persevere through immediately and some took their toll over a long time. Golf serves to remind me on a daily basis that the more I can keep my emotions in check, stay humble and smile, the more often I enjoy the process.... I enjoy the game... I enjoy the journey... I enjoy life.... I enjoy the relationships...
Its not reasonable to expect to not have any set backs or bad shots over a par-72. Its not reasonable to expect to never have any setbacks in life. We have to keep moving forward, putting our bad shots behind us. Short memory for the bad shots and a long memory for the good ones. Short memory for the bad days, long memory for the good ones.
So remember, golf is a reflection of who you are. Be the person you want to be and take stalk every shot. Is it safer to go around the water, or do you want to take the risk and "go for it"? What if you miss? Are you going to cry and scream and shout and blame everyone else or your surroundings for the failure? What if you make it? Are you going to jump up and down and pontificate form your mighty thrown how great you are? If you swing and miss and no-one sees it... do you count the shot or take the mulligan? No one else knows... but you do..
Honesty, Integrity, Grit, Humility, Courage, Endurance, Intelligence, Hard Work, Patience, Ambition
Golf..... It is a reflection of who you are.